The Best Way To Use A Computer

If you’re a Windows user and you’re having problems with it getting slow and sluggish, then cleaning it out might be a great option.  It’s rather common for a computer to slow down over time due to the buildup of lots of extra files, folders, and other junk.

I always try to give people tips on how to properly use their computers, and the first things I tell them are to not install any programs unless you absolutely must (this includes plugins and junk for your internet browser), and to not download lots of junk if they don’t really need it.  The more junk you download, the slower your computer will get.  It won’t be noticeable until your computer starts getting full if you’re just downloading music, but downloading software runs the risk of getting viruses and other spyware/malware that might piggyback on with legitimate software.  One of the biggest offenders that I run into all the time is the way that McAffee Antivirus tries to piggyback on with Adobe software such as Flash and Reader.  I absolutely hate this, and I think Adobe is tarnishing their image by allowing this.

But I digress.  The best way to really use a computer is to try to keep it as lean as possible.  This means no programs unless you have to, and only downloading things from legitimate sources and websites.

Another great thing that you can do is to regularly clear your computer of junk files and folders that will tend to build up over time.  You can use a software tool such as RegCure Pro or CCleaner to really do a thorough job.  You probably couldn’t do what these programs do manually and it would take too long anyway.  You can check out this post for more information on these types of programs.

I also tell all of my friends to back up their computer all the time.  No joke.  I’ve had too many hard drives crash on me to not do it anymore.  If I haven’t done it in a while, I get nervous.  If you’re super lazy and you don’t mind spending about $5 a month, you can get a subscription to Backblaze, which will really help you out by completely automating your backup and storing it off-site in their cloud storage.  It’s pretty foolproof if you ask me, and the easiest way to back up for lazy people.

Finding Yourself

Finding yourself after coming out is difficult.  I came out later in life, and I feel that in my late 20′s I’m learning things that people should have learned when they were in high school and college.  I find myself regressing, partying and hanging out with my younger friends.  I feel like I missed out on that time of my life because I wasn’t really myself.  I was a shade of myself – a shell that was in denial of their true self.

I find that the more I get comfortable and lean into my true self, that I am so gay.  100%, no turning back and no room for doubt.  I used to have doubts…maybe I would fall for someone of the opposite sex.  But the more I find myself in situations with members of my own sex there’s really no denying it.  It almost shocks me sometimes how clear it is.

And I mourn all the lost time.  I would not quite call it wasted time – I was productive with my life, and did lots of worthwhile and fun things.  However I did miss out on intimacy and relationships and that feeling of being in love.  And that is one of life’s best feelings – the good, the bad, and the ugly of it.

I feel that I’m being taken through a crash course in all the teenage angst I missed out on – 10 years worth in a few months.  The first two months of 2014 have had enough drama to fill a few novels.  My heart has been beaten to a pulp, wrung out, and beaten again.  I like to think that I’m gathering experiences that will be important to me later in life – experiences that will help me understand characters I might write into a screenplay.  If I were to go from coming out to a happy relationship, I would never understand all the angst, the trials, the pain of having your heart broken in all these different ways.  I’m trying to look on the bright side of these experiences – as a writer you want to experience everything, you want to see different points of view, you want to know what things feel like.  If you don’t experience the ultimate highs and lows of the human experience you could never even begin to write about them.